When you think about yourself, what comes to mind? Do you believe that you are a positive person with intrinsic worth, that you are strong and capable, and that you have value to add to the world? Or do you struggle with feelings of unworthiness and chronically doubt your abilities?
Many of us identify with the latter and struggle to feel that we deserve positive outcomes in our lives. The problem is, when we believe negative things about ourselves, those beliefs become self-fulfilling prophesies. We don’t see any growth and we don’t find success simply because we don’t believe that we can.
Of course, there will always be obstacles that we must overcome on our way to success, and sometimes those obstacles may feel insurmountable. Those who believe in their abilities are the ones that are the most resilient and can better handle the setbacks that inevitably come along. Those who view themselves negatively don’t handle the setbacks as well because they perceive those failures to be a result of their inadequacy. Or worse – they will blame the difficulty on their outside environment, not realizing that the biggest obstacle they face is, in fact, their limiting beliefs.
When we fail, we must remember that it is part of the process. One of the best things that we can do to reach success is to shift our mindset around our limiting beliefs so that we can start believing in ourselves, our abilities, and the value that we have to share with the world. If you have time, check out this video by Mel Robbins on limiting beliefs and what they cost you. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=doa2KKj_f5o].
A mindset shift can be very difficult and take time, especially if these thoughts and beliefs have become ingrained over many years. It’s never impossible to change, and the positive outcomes will be worth the effort. Try following these steps to shift your mindset:
Identify what your limiting beliefs are.
This requires some self-awareness. As you go through your day, tune in to your thought reel- what are you saying to yourself? How are you responding to the events that happen throughout the day? What are you thinking and feeling about obstacles that occur throughout the day? Paying attention to this internal dialogue will highlight those limiting beliefs. The areas where you tend to be the most negative and feel the most discouraged hold clues to your underlying limiting beliefs.
Challenge those limiting beliefs – change your thought patterns.
This step is essential. If you know what your limiting beliefs are, but you do nothing to change them, you will continue to live out the scripts that your limiting beliefs have written for you. Challenge those beliefs by addressing your thought patterns; replace those negative messages with more positive ones. Mel Robbins discusses this; she calls it “Think this, not that”. Check it out – she has a blog post for those of you who prefer reading and a YouTube video for the auditory learners out there.
ii. YouTube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYZSCwpI98I
Challenge those limiting beliefs – change your behaviors.
One of the most powerful things you can do to change the way you feel about something is to change your actions. James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, makes this point in his book. Each action you take builds your identity, the way you view yourself. Changing behavior to be more in line with your new belief helps the belief stick around because you are making conscious choices that are redefining your identity. Check out his blog post to read more on this idea: https://jamesclear.com/identity-votes
The process of change takes time, so start today! Identify those limiting beliefs and get to work – imagine where we will be one year from now if we just begin right now.
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